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Hi friend,

For three years now, I’ve been writing to you about conflict, power, and systems change — the frameworks, the practices, the work of building relational architecture for new worlds.

And while I love that work (it’s important, it’s necessary, it’s perhaps my life’s work and purpose), there’s so much I don’t share publicly.

The messy, unfiltered thinking-out-loud — aka the voice note rants sent to my closest friends and colleagues. The frameworks-in-progress, before they’re polished and turned into slide decks. The theoretical foundations that eventually become both praxis and organizational change tools. The lineages — birth, sex, death, power — that inform how I understand and came to transformation.

So I’m opening my research lab.

Intimate Practice is the artist’s studio and study space behind my transition design work. It’s where I explore desire theory, relationship anthropology, and embodied scholarship. It’s where I think out loud with you before the frameworks are Frameworks™️. It’s where I do the deep study that informs our lived work — where we read bell hooks and Audre Lorde and ask questions like: what does it mean to be human together in liberatory ways when everything we’ve learned about conflict has been shaped by domination?

This is my kitchen table for the crips, the queers, the whores, and the doulas. It’s my study space for anyone doing justice work who craves deeper study, rigorous thinking, and intimate practice.

What you’ll find:

• Weekly reflections (voice notes, written posts, half-formed thoughts)
• Monthly Reading Room sessions (live study of liberatory texts)
• Early versions of frameworks I’m testing with clients
• Behind-the-scenes of building a consulting practice
• Questions I’m sitting with, books I’m reading, ideas I’m playing with

Our first public Reading Room is Saturday, January 3rd — we’ll study Audre Lorde’s “Uses of the Erotic” together. This event is free and open to everyone, whether you join the Patreon or not. I’d love to have you there.

And if you want to pull up a chair at my kitchen table year-round:

Come in, leave your shoes by the door. I'll pour the tea. Let's think together.

with care,

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when you’re ready for more clarity in complexity, here are a few ways we can work together:

🌱 Office Hours: An hour of grounded, systems-minded support for whatever feels complex in your leadership, relationships, or strategy. Bring the knot; we’ll untangle it together.

🌿 Conflict Midwifery: For organizations ready to meet challenge with integrity. I walk alongside teams, boards, and leaders navigating rupture, power, and change — toward more honest, healing ways of working.

🔥 Relational Skills Workshops: Practical, embodied trainings for teams learning to turn tension into transformation. Build the muscle for equity in practice — through accountability, repair, and right-sized power.